In raising children there is the operating belief that small acts of love consistently applied can avert major and less successful interventions later on. The simple fact is there comes a time when “too late for small acts” becomes sadly a real condition. What is left is the unhappy situation where society is forced to pick up the pieces following the failure of relationships to provide preventive small acts in a timely way. As in failing to regularly service a car with oil changes, such necessary small acts not done can result in the serious rise in the costs of neglect. These costs typically become externalized into society which becomes the repository of diverse dysfunctions which can be broadly defined as failures to nurture. In this light, timely small acts quickly lose their “take it or leave it” aspect and can be seen as necessary in avoiding the escalating costs and less effective “big acts” eventually forced upon us.