My wife (Kathy) and I have the great good fortune of living within one another’s love. Tonight we had over 1½ hours of pillow talk—talk in which we could be completely honest in recounting our experiences and thoughts about them. The cleanliness of honesty conquered the smutty threat of deceit posed by an absolute worship of respectability. Such honesty derives from an understanding that righteousness and respectability occasionally part company. Respectability sometimes does not countenance the truth. It is a tremendously freeing experience to realize you will not be isolated and rejected simply for being ruthlessly candid. My belief is that if you feel you must be constantly circumspect even in your intimate conversations with your spouse, then you are missing out on one of the greatest benefits in being loved—the possibility of revealing your innermost thoughts and feelings without fear of recrimination by the gods of respectability and social or political correctness. This brings about an assurance of personhood that is fundamentally profound. Thus strengthened one can face the world confidently and fearlessly. One has been tested in the crucible of love—the most critical crucible of all—and found worthy.
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